How do I talk to my partner about safer sex?
Whether you have HIV or want to take precautions against getting HIV, here are some conversation starters to help you begin talking about safer sex options with your partners include:
- I really like you, and like where this is going, but before we go any further, there’s something I want to tell you. I’m HIV-positive.
- Let’s start talking about ways to keep each other healthy and safe. When was the last time you were tested for HIV?
- Did you know that there are medicines that you can take that can further reduce the chance of you getting HIV? Have you heard of PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis)? Maybe we should talk to our doctors to see if it’s right for us.
- Can we talk about sex? Safer sex is really important to me.
- So we haven’t really talked about it, but can we agree that when the time comes, we’ll use condoms to keep each other safe?
- I know we just met and we don’t know everything about each other, but you should know that practicing safer sex is really important to me. When is the last time you were tested for HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases?
For partners that are both living with HIV:
- If we’re going to have sex, let’s get tested for other STDs together before we take that step.
- Getting an STD could really compromise our health. Let’s stay healthy and get tested for STDs regularly.
- Let’s talk about how we can practice safer sex so that we don’t increase our chances of getting an STD or a new strain of HIV.
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- Page last reviewed: December 3, 2018
- Page last updated: December 3, 2018
- Content source: Division of HIV/AIDS Prevention, National Center for HIV/AIDS, Viral Hepatitis, STD, and TB Prevention, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention