“Seeking professional help is very important. But you can’t leave out the important aspect of talking with your partner,” Wenora says in this video.
Wenora has a genetic condition that makes her highly susceptible to cancer. Learn how she dealt with dating and relationships, family, sexual health, and advocating for herself following treatment for several cancers.
“This is going to be your new normal. This is your new normal, so embrace it for what it is. And continue looking forward to your life—looking forward to the future, because none of us know what that will bring.
“While this cancer treatment saved my life, having a total hysterectomy threw me immediately into early menopause. No one ever said that maybe you should talk to your gynecologist to see if there’s something that can be given as a therapy treatment replacement to help you through this.
“Had I known that, I’m going, ’I’m suffering in silence here. Am I the only woman feeling this way with the super low libido or I’m not the most patient person anymore.’ I feel like I’m not the same individual I was before my cancer.
“Don’t suffer in silence like I did. Talk to your gynecologist or talk to your oncologist. I would say seeking professional help is very important.
“But you can’t leave out the important aspect of talking with your partner. No one really, truly tells you that there are gonna be days that you don’t feel like being touched or that you maybe just want some alone time, and getting your spouse to understand that that’s where you are in that space and time.
“We would talk a lot, hold hands. We do other things besides just being intimate to help keep the closeness together. We actually did 2.5 miles in 23 minutes and 30 seconds!
“We need to learn to just breathe, laugh, and just really enjoy life and that’s it! Regardless of where we are with this journey, seriously enjoy your life for what it is because it can be taken from you at any moment. But in this moment, now, you have the ultimate control.”